In college I met a cute boy a few days before Valentines Day. After dating for a few months he said he agonized what to do for Valentines Day since we started dating just days before. Should he ask me out, send flowers, or give a gift? There is a lot of pressure of what kind of message your gift sends, and people stress about if they look like they think the relationship is more serious than the other person.
If you are not exclusively seeing someone, and are unsure if you should ask her out to dinner on Valentine’s Day, consider asking her to lunch. If you don’t want to come to the restaurant empty handed, a card and a rose are a safe bet.
“She loves me, she loves me not?” What if you do not know that answer? My husband said where he grew up sending someone 12 roses said “I love you”. When a friend of mine was ordering a bouquet of Valentine’s Day balloons for her boyfriend, she was adamant that the balloons could not say, “I love you” or has anything close to indicating love. She feared scaring him off. A small gift unrelated to something “romantic” is always a safe bet.
What if someone gives you a bigger or better gift than you give him or her? Or what if you find yourself on the receiving end and you have nothing in return? Do not make a big deal about it. No need to make an excuse like, “I ordered your gift online, and it just has not come yet.” Graciously except the gift and if you really like the person, treat him to dinner next time, or do something nice and unexpected for her the next week. Never reference that you are making up for not having a gift, just see where your new romance takes you.